I've learned

As I was decluttering and sorting out my stuff in the store this morning,I found this piece below.I guess it has remained unopen in my file for more than ten years.The pages have turned slightly yellow.I don't remember the actual source of it but I must have downloaded from the net.

Reading it now at a very ripe age ,I found that there is a sense of truth in these printed words.Here I am sharing it with you my friends.For some I have edited and adapted them to my own experience.


I've learned-
that you cannot make someone love you,
no matter how hard you tried.
All you can do is
be someone who can be loved.
The rest is up to them.

I've learned-
that no matter how much I care
some people just don't care back
so I don't give a damn

I've learned-
that it takes years to build up trust,
and only seconds to destroy it.
Once destroyed difficult to retrieve.

I've learned-
that it's not what you have in your life
but who you have in your life that counts

I've learned-
that no matter how bad
your heart is broken
the world doesn't stop for your grief
so wake up
rebuild the broken pieces

I've learned-
that our background and circumstances
may have influenced who we are
but we are responsible for who we became

I've learned-
that your family won't always
be there for you.It may seem funny,
but people you aren't related to
can take care of you and love you.

I've learned-
that maturity has more to do with
what types of experiences you've had
and what you've learned from them
and less to do with how many
birthday you've celebrated

I've learned-
that just because two people argue,
it doesn't mean they don't love each other
And just because they don't argue,
it doesn't mean they do,

I've learned-
that you shouldn't be so
eager to find out a secret
It could change your life forever
Remain ignorant is the best sometimes!

I've learned-
that you can do something in an instant
that will give you heartache for life.

I've learned-
that it's not what happens to people
that's important.It's what they do about it.

I've learned-
that you shouldn't compare
yourself to the best of others can do
but to the best you can do

I've learned-
that credentials on the wall
do not make you a decent human being

I've learned-
that no matter how good a friend is,
they're going to hurt you
every once in a while
and you must forgive that

I've learned-
that regardless of how hot and steamy
a relationship is at first,
the passion fades and there had better be
something else to take its place.

Enjoy reading.....

A quiet but fruitful weekend

With two kids back at their hostel and other half back to KL,things are a bit slow and quiet this weekends.Other than doing the normal household chores , I spend most of my time reading the book "Jadilah Wanita Yang Paling Bahagia"by Dr Aidh Bin Abdullah Al-Qarni.My other half is not coming back either, instead he is driving back to Muar to see his oil palm trees.Suddenly he has this zest of being an aspirated farmer.I let him do as he wish..

So I am left with my daughter and the big baby again. Since school just reopened, my daughter has less things to do except being a couch potato. I wont pressure her for she just had an exhausted year.My big baby is busy completing his homework.He is sitting for his UPSR this year and so workload has started to increase. This weekend alone he has to find the meanings of 75 words from Kamus Dewan and he managed to finish it by Saturday evening.Good boy..started to show responsibility

Last weekend I was looking for ' Rantings in 50 days ' by Marina Mahathir at Popular but it seems that the book hasnt arrived in KB,so while browsing i spotted tis book 'Jadilah Wanita paling bahagia" and now in my mid reading...

It s a book to summon all women to live peacefully and happily with their religion, to feel extremely content with the awards bestowed on them by the Al mighty and be immensely pleasing with all the good things blessed upon them.

Be a butterfly , light in appearance,beautiful to gaze at,flying from one flower to another..from one stem to another,from one garden to another..

Or be a honey,eat good food and yeild good produce.Alight on twigs without breaking it ,suck nectars without stinging,produce honey without wounding,flying and alighting freely with love and affection.Its buzzing sound ...like angles coming down from heaven bringing good news..

Good bye to worries, sadness,anxiety,misery,nightmares,frustration..

Be a happy contented woman instead..

An advice from a mother to her children

My children..
Let me remind you that
life is no easy path, no bed of roses or
crystal staircase either
It has bumps along the way or
tacks in it..
and maybe long tall grasses that might scratch and bleed you
or sometimes boards torn up and places with no carpet..bare
but.. all the time you should be wallking,climbing..
reaching landings..
and turning corners..
sometimes there are dark tunnels..with no light at all
Dont turn back or set on the step or fall down..
keep going ..keep climbing..
keep reaching.
Failure???
well my children,
You have failed many times before
You fell down the first time you tried to walk.
You almost drowned the first time you tried to swim.
You fell down from your first bike
but always remember
Failure is part and parcel of success

Along..did you able to hit all your balls and get most home runs in your games of criket?
You did not...but you manage to be a state player..

Angah...remember you were too scared to enter the inter-brigade Musabaqah Al-Quran..but after a few trainings you manage to compete well.

Ifah..you almost couldnt make it into your school gymrama team but your persistence and strong determination managed to convince your teacher and you were chosen later....

Ijat..the big baby in the family..you once failed to be the MC for the school assembly,you were dismissed in the middle of the ceremony..but later after a few trials you manage to become one..

My children..you should not worry about failure
but worry about the opportunity you miss when you dont even give a try..
Life for me is no crystal staircase either or green green pasture
For momy too has failed before
not once but many many times
But until now.. momy could still stand...
tall and strong...

Some Quotable quotes...

If there is light in the soul,
There will be beauty in the person.
If there is beauty in the person,
There will be harmony in the house.
If there is harmony in the house,
There will be order in the nation.
If there is order in the nation,
There will be peace in the world.

Chinese Proverb

Everybody can be great...because anybody can serve.
You don't have to have a college degree to serve.
You don't have to make your subject and verb agree to serve.
You only need a heart full of grace.
A soul generated by love.

Martin Luther King Jr.


Smile at each other,
smile at yout wife,
smile at your husband,
smile at your children,
smile at each other
-it doesn't matter who it is
-and that will help you to grow up in greater love for each other.

Mother Teresa


Spread love everywhere you go: first of all in your own house.Give love to your children, to your wife or husband, to a next door neighbour..Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier.Be the living expression of God's kindness, kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile,kindness in your warm greeting.

Mother Teresa


So, spread your love, kindness and smile to make this world a better,cheerful and peaceful place to live in...

Goodbye 2008 ...welcome 2009

Today is the last day of 2008.Most of us will do some reflecting of the year gone by and at the same time listing the hopes and resolutions for the new year 2009.

Of course,we couldn't get everything that we want in a year but surely we can make do with what has been given and bestowed to us and adjust it to the best of our ability.

I always look forward to a new year, no doubt this year it means my age is edging towards half a century,I dont mind that.Infact, I am proud of it.It means I am another year wiser and more settled down in my life and career.Frankly speaking, I dont envy those in their 20 s or 30 s because as I can see it they are still struggling or baru nak mula bina hidup. By the time you reach 40, you ve settled down financially and emotionally.You are more confident in your actions,decision- making and you know what you want in life. Beauty wise..well of course it deteriorates but lets not discuss about it..after all beauty is skin deep and lies in the eyes of the beholder.

To err is human and through out our journey in life we make mistakes now and then.So every time a new year approaches I wish that I would not repeat the same kind of mistake or foolishness again.It is always in my prayer that the Almighty will guide me in decision-making. There are times too I felt so frustrated, so heartbroken either due to certain incident or someone.So, I always have high hopes that this someone will not break my heart into pieces again and again, and realise once and for all that I am a human being with feelings and emotions!

I am a teacher.I love my job and do not mind being a teacher through out my career life.I help my students in their quest for new opportunities and discovering talents which may lie buried in self - defeat.Each day I see that life is reborn with questions, ideas and even friendship.I am also doing battles with ignorance ,peer preasure, fear and negativity.If I won, then its achievement to me.A feeling of contentment.So,career wise I d not ask for more, I am being entrusted with the future that is the children.Public and parents trust me.

For my kids, I hope that they will be blessed with good health, then only they can study hard and excel.My eldest will be sitting for his SPM, my second for PMR and my youngest-the big baby in the family will be taking his UPSR next year.I hope all of them will bring straight A s home.At the same time I wish the Al mighty will bestow guidance and hidayah on them.This include my third child too.

I wish 2009 will witness me to become a better muslim, a strong individual,a diligent staff,the best wife and mother to my other half and children and a good neighbour...

Well, those are my wishes for 2009 and happy new year to all.

A CREED FOR THOSE WHO HAVE SUFFERED

I love reading Chicken Soups.The stories seem to inspire and motivate me.In one of my readings I came across these lines which I want to share with you bloggers.



I asked GOD for strength, that I might achieve.
I was made weak,that I might learn humbly to obey...


I asked for health, that I might do great things.
I was given infirmity, that I might do better things...


I asked for riches,that I might be happy.
I was given poverty, that I might be wise...


I asked for power, that I might have the praise of men.
I was given weakness,that I might feel the need of GOD...


I asked for all things, that I might enjoy life.
I was given life,that I might enjoy all things...


I got nothing I asked for-but everything I had hoped for.
Almost despite myself, my unspoken prayers were answered.


I am, among men, most richly blessed!



P/S..Always look at the bright side of things in life.Allah, the creator of the universe, knows what is best for us...Warm Maal Hijrah greeting and Happy New Year to all.